Friday, April 13, 2012

The Fat Girl vs. The Naturally Skinny Girl

I mentioned on Wednesday how I struggle with being one of the girls who has a lot to lose in comparison to the girls who are in sizes 2 and 4 that complain about needing to lose weight when they hit a size 4 or 6.

I don't want this to come across as rude or petty or anything that is a bad descriptive for what I am about to say. This isn't like where a person says "Well not to be rude but,..." I really don't want to be misinterpreted as so often can happen in the blog world. So please take all of that in right now before you read my statement.

That being said...

It is really hard for me to relate to needing to lose weight when someone is super tiny. 

I know that I'm on my way to losing weight. My ultimate goal is to be in the size 6-10 range. At my smallest, I've been between a 6 or 8 depending on what store I shop. My natural weight is about 5 pounds above the weight that is considered healthy for my height. I attribute this to the fact that I was a catcher growing up and so my legs will always be just a little bit bigger because my legs were conditioned for strength and also because my family just tends to be built broader in hips and chest area. It's just part of being me. I don't have a problem any of this. Ultimately, my goal is about being healthy and maintaining that healthy weight. I don't want to be a stick.

I've had several people try to explain from the Natural Skinny Girl's point of view that it's about being for them healthy too. They've always felt their best at a former size. And there is truth to this. The smaller I get, the better I feel. Carrying around less weight allows for me to have more energy and be a more productive person. But when a girl who has been naturally skinny for her entire life is complaining about going up one size, I just have a hard time leveling with her. I don't want to sound bitter. I really don't. I just struggle with this thought process.

At some point, I am going to reach my goal. I don't want to forget what it felt like to be so big. At the same time I'm wondering if I will have the perspective of the skinny girl or will I always have the mentality of the fat girl?

These are just some thoughts that have been rolling around in my head for the past couple of weeks. What do y'all think?

Happy Friday!



Susannah said...

I have a hard one with this too. I've always had to work very hard to be a smaller size. After I had Emma and did WW and got to a size 6, it was soooo hard to maintain. Now after Harrison, I'm a 12-14 depending on brand and it KILLS ME to think of what I was. I keep finding excuses and deep down I know I could reign it in if only I would take them on walks or eat healthier. I keep telling myself I'll get back before baby number three and be healthier that go round. Argh-it's hard!

The Life of Susan said...

I can relate to this on a lot of levels... I remember how frustrating it was to hear girls complain about the barely there flab around their belly and now here I am as a size 6 doing the same thing. Part of me feels like I need to pull out my before pictures to prove I can relate to the fat girl because now I'm the one making them feel bad about themselves. Bottom line is that as women we always critique ourselves. It's every woman's right no matter her size. But we also don't have to subject ourselves to listening to it either if we don't want to! So that's how I feel about that I guess. lol

Jess said...

I'm totally in the same boat. I've always had bigger legs then my friends, and even at the same weight I was always 2 sizes bigger. No matter what I do my body bounces to the same weight.It is what it is ya know?

The Pink Growl said...

I totally agree with you! I'm only 5'4" so even a weight gain/loss of 5-10lbs is huge on my body frame. I've always had a bigger butt and legs and no matter how much I workout I don't think I can get rid of them. Ultimately, its about being happy with your body type. Keep up the good work!

LWLH said...

I completely understand where they are coming from but I agree with you.

When I hear size 4 girls saying they need to lose weight or they feel fat, I honestly get on the defensive, because really what would they think of me. I would love to be there size on their fattest day.

Kelsey Claire said...

Love this post. I lost some weight over the past year or so, but I think I will always view myself as heavier than what I actually am. Like you I have a more muscular build especially in the legs. I have decided to focus more on size or how my pants fit rather than weight! Keep up the hard work!

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